As plannedĀ I smoked two more cigarettes that Labor Day weekend. I smoked another one on Saturday, and the next one on that Monday, Labor Day.
For the Saturday Cigarette, I decided to try smoking in the morning for a change. I went into the woods in an undeveloped area near my house and found a nice secluded nook to smoke it. Despite not doing anything different, I must say the morning cigarette felt different. I had done all my previous smoking in the afternoon or at night, so there was a noticeable difference in starting my day with one. As if the previous cigarettes, I built up that tension and urge to smoke all day and got to release it at the end, but this cigarette I did first thing and therefore the nicotine was entering my body in a much calmer state. This was the most relaxing cigarette I had smoked to date. And this time, I smoked the whole thing, probably because I mentally prepared myself ahead of time.
Two positives – The guilt for this cigarette wasn’t very strong. I’d be lying if I said it was non-existant, but I didn’t feel near the level of shame as my last one. And second, I didn’t feel let down at the end. Probably because I had readjusted my expectations based on my last cigarette, and wasn’t hyping it up to be some great experience.
So from an all-around standpoint, I’d say this cigarette was my most successful to date, based on all the outlying circumstances.
The Labor Day Cigarette was approached differently. My last smoking cycle with the Camels, when I smoked the 3rd one, I had not yet decided that the 3rd cigarette I smoked would be my last in that cycle, so I didn’t mentally prepare myself to savor and enjoy it. This time, I knew that this would be my last one in a while so I wanted to make it count.
I feel like I wasted too much time trying to find the perfect spot to smoke this day. I had to reassure myself its not about the location, but the smoking itself. I decided to just smoke at sunset, since the weather was great and who knows what the weather will be like next time I smoke. I went to the local Youth baseball fields that were empty and sat down in the bleachers to smoke. These bleachers were a good 200 yards from any road or sidewalk, so no one was going to see me unless they made their way into the baseball field as well, and I saw no reason why anyone would.
I slouched back in the bleachers and lit up. I really paced myself and tried to make each drag count. In retrospect, I regret this. I was so preoccupied with “making it count” that I was distracted from the actual smoking itself. Smoking is supposed to be a calm, relaxing activity, not something you micromanage and overthink. That just makes it, non-relaxing. I finished the cigarette and put it out, but told myself next time, just smoke. Don’t overthink it. When I observe those elegant, stylish smokers that I want to emulate, do you think they are overthinking it? I doubt it. It is second nature to them. I think part of their elegance and style is because they don’t overthink it, and therefore their style is simply an extension of who they are.
Again, like my last smoking cycle in July, I didn’t experience any cravings to my knowledge. I had spaced out my 3 cigarettes over 5 days, and only felt my normal, lifelong psychological smoking urges. Maybe, I thought, a cigarette craving is no different the psychological urge I have always had. The only way to know for sure would be to smoke more, something I was unwilling to do.
With my smoking cycle complete, I assessed it. I feel like I had taken a step closer to fulfilling the smoking fantasy I had created for myself since I discovered my smoking fetish, but was still so far. And I began to think if it was even a fantasy that could be fulfilled. Maybe for the future I need to reduce my expectations.
I took the Benson & Hedges pack and tossed it in the garbage on the way out. As much as I hated throwing out 17 perfectly good cigarettes, that is the unofficial agreement I had with my fetish, when I cave, it’s 3 and out. The Benson & Hedges grew on me. I can’t really compare them to the Camel No. 9’s, they are two completely different types of cigarettes. I’d say the B&H was a more “serious” cigarette, as it was stronger and gave a better buzz, while the Camel No. 9’s were more of a “party/recreational” cigarette, which you smoke when you want something lighter. I like them both.
I drove back to campus. One positive is that in my fantasies, I always dread the end of my smoking cycles. But to be honest, I was content. Experimenting with smoking, now having smoked 6 cigarettes successfully, has been a positive in the fact that I got to see what smoking was all about, but negative in the fact that it hasn’t been the great release I was expecting. When you have a smoking fetish and think about smoking all the time, you think when you finally do smoke, it will be a grand, glorious event that was worth the payoff. Instead, I’d say the payoff is more in the fact that you are no longer thinking about smoking, you are actually doing it. For the first time in weeks you are not saying to yourself “I want to smoke”, because you are actually smoking. That’s the payoff, and while its nice, it’s analogous to saying setting yourself on fire is worth it because the payoff is feeling better when it is extinguished. So far, my enjoyment of this has been the negative reinforcement – the fetish is based on so much thinking about smoking, fantasy, planning, and anticipation, which sets unrealistic expectations. I sometimes feel more excitement in thinking about the smoking and planning it out than actually doing it.